By: Pearl Omomah
It was a year on September 27, 2010 since my dad passed away from prostate cancer, he was 75 years old. My parents are Nigerians and divorced when I was very young. At the time of his death, he had 12 children by 6 different women including my mom. I am the oldest daughter, but the second child. He lived in Nigeria, but always went abroad every year for his physicals. He was very healthy, and took very good care of himself. He used to tell me that he jogged every day and walked long distances instead of driving. In 2005, he went to Canada for his physical, and was told by his then doctor that he had prostate cancer, and that he should do the surgery right away before he went back to Nigeria. He also told him that one of the side effects of the surgery was impotence. My dad loved the ladies, and hearing that he could become impotent, he refused to do the surgery, stating that he could not stay away for that long. My siblings in Canada pleaded with him to stay, but he refused and said that his doctor in Nigeria would do the surgery.
The doctor gave him a prescription which he said would reduce the cancer. He was always going for check ups with his doctor in Nigeria, and was told that the cancer had shrunk. Then two years ago he started to have problems, started losing weight, had two surgeries, one for an enlarged prostate, and the other for hemorrhoids.
In the last few months of his life, I called Nigeria almost everyday. On one of those occasions, he told me that if he had known, he would have had the surgery in 2005. He was always in and out of the hospital, had blood transfusions many times. He was in a coma for three days before his death, and never woke up.
I miss my dad very much, and still can’t believe he’s gone. He was buried in Nigeria, and I couldn’t go because two weeks after his death, I fell down the stairs in my house. I broke my right ankle in 3 places, bruised the bone in my left one, and broke 3 fingers in my right hand. I was a mess!
I pray that his soul rests in perfect peace. Amen!